Who is the most important person in your life?
Most of the time when I ask this question I am met with an answer along the lines of “my children/family/ husband/partner”.
But what if I was to say that YOU are the most important person in your life?
You might be really struggling with that statement right now, feeling that it would be selfish, egotistical or arrogant to say something like that. I promise you it’s none of those things. It’s more about putting your needs, wants and desires first so that you are in a better place to love and care for all the other important people in your life.
When you are happy, fulfilled and content on the inside, it cannot help but spill over into every other area of your life …and only then do your children, family, husband, partner, friends or work colleagues truly get the best version of you.
So how do you become the most important person in your life without feeling guilty or selfish (and let’s face it, as women we tend to do guilt pretty well don’t we)?
Here are some simple ways to start putting yourself at the top of your important list:
1. Listen to your heart. Take notice of your gut feelings – this is your intuition trying to guide you. And then act upon those feelings, don’t brush them away or ignore them. You are worth listening to.
2. Plan things that nurture your soul. Book a date in the diary for a treatment, a spa day, a coffee with a girlfriend, a walk where you can enjoy the beauty of nature, make time for your creative streak – whatever lights you up on the inside.
3. If you are a people-pleaser, buy yourself some thinking time before you commit to any more requests for help, support or doing things you don’t really want to do or have time to do. Your time is precious – are you sure you want to be giving it all to other people?
4. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and make you feel good about yourself. If you have friends (or family!) that bring you down, make you feel incompetent or unworthy or you stay in contact with just because you feel you should, maybe it’s time to move on or limit the amount of time you spend with them. Being surrounded by positive light energy makes a huge difference to how we feel.
5. Take some time to consider what really matters to you. Often we hurtle along in this fast paced world without much of a clue of what our values are, the things that really matter to us deep down. When you become more in touch with your core values, you can learn to honour them and then life becomes happier and a lot more satisfying. Your values might include anything from family, love, respect and peace to religion, security, success, power or a whole host of others – it’s whatever resonates with the very heart of you.
Are you ready to commit to yourself now? To put yourself at the top of the list? If you don’t do it, who else is going to? Treat yourself as you would your best friend. Be kind, gentle and loving….you’ll feel a whole lot better for it.
If making yourself important still feels way out of reach, click on the button below to book a free call with me and we can spend some time looking at how you can create that inner love and a more fulfilling life for yourself. You are worth it!